Pregnancy, Labour, Childbirth and Parenting….:)
LABOUR and CHILDBIRTH
Most women naturally become very aware of their
growing bodies and the little life within. Since you
are already in touch with the body sensations, it is the
perfect time to do a vipassana or any meditation
which helps you feel peaceful, relaxed and connected
with the life within and life outside.
The 9 months is a great time to start organising and
simplifying your life. Bring harmony into your world
by healing relationships important to you. The baby
is feeding on what you eat and what you feel.
It is important also to decide how and where you
would like to give birth.
As a society we are moving away from nature in most
things. Our food is full of chemical and pesticide.
Progress is the name given to cutting of trees and
putting up buildings or creating weapons of mass
destruction. It is interesting how most things we
“create” end up burdening and polluting Mother
Nature. So it follows that this is also how we treat
pregnancy and give birth!
Pregnancy like sickness involves regular visits to
the doctor and you need to be told how, what and
when to eat so your baby will be healthy. Of course
you need supplements because your body will lack
iron and calcium without it! How can you give birth
without a doctor present?
We as women have lost our power somewhere in this
If you eat healthy, do some gentle stretching, walk,
relax when you need to, continue to work and have a
meaningful life, you will have a wonderful
pregnancy. The body is absolutely amazing. It has
been designed by God, the universe, existence or
whatever words you feel comfortable with, to be the
home for 9 months of this new life. Your body is
capable of growing, stretching, healing, producing
more of whatever you and the baby need. All you need
to do is offer the right support.
There is a growing awareness of different options
being available for gentle natural birthing in the
presence of your loved ones.
The process of childbirth is so well designed by
nature. The baby when ready sends the signal to your
brain to release hormones which start labour.
Contractions start off gently, slowly getting
stronger, giving your body and mind plenty of time
to cope with the strong sensations. When it is time,
the body starts to push on its own, taking little
pauses to relax and allow the baby to adjust. If you
want to support this process the mind just needs to
watch with awe and love as your baby and your body
do all the work and of course you need to there to
catch the little one into your welcoming hands when
he or she eventually comes out!!
The baby needs to come out into an environment which
will not shock his or her senses. In nature, the
mother deer will only give birth when she feels
completely safe. The baby will feel the earth and
the mother’s tongue cleaning and kissing it. Your
baby wants to feel your body, your hands, your
kisses and your breast!
My son Kian came out in water with open eyes and a
smile according to my husband! He started to feed
within minutes of being born. He held my mother’s
finger as he fed. We waited to cut the cord for a
long time so he was still being fed by the placenta
and could take his time to breathe on his own.
(Please email me if you would like to read my birth
This unnecessary hurry to cut the cord and take the
baby away from the mother to be weighed, cleaned and
measured is very strange.
All babies are recommended today to get the Vitamin
K vaccine immediately after birth when it is
completely unnecessary 99% of the time. Your body
will produce the Vitamin K that the baby needs.
The strangest new progress we have come up with is
stem cell banking. You need to cut the cord
immediately and save it so the baby can be helped
later. You are depriving your child of all that
lovely goodness and immunity that the placenta is
offering the baby and making him or her weaker!
I would also like to touch upon circumcision at this
time. Your baby boy’s foreskin besides being a
natural protective layer for the penis, is also the
very sensitive home of millions of pleasure cells.
Do you really want to in the name of religion or
cleanliness to deprive your son of a natural relaxed
sex life?! In the words of
Elena, it is first connection between violence and
sex for your baby boy.
Circumcision in new born’s are performed without
anaesthesia. Can you imagine the amount of pain you
put your baby through? Most people think it is cruel
to circumcise the baby girls in Africa, where
compassion for the baby boy?
Please read the article in the link below for more
Circumcision the history and the false beliefs
Babies inside a mommy and eventually when they come
out too are very connected to God, Existence or
whatever you choose to call it. If we can birth our
babies without traumatizing them and ourselves, we
could maybe change the world!!
I read Jean Leidloff's The Continuum Concept when I
was pregnant and Wow, it is an amazing book to guide
One interesting point she makes is that babies need
to be in arms/ in physical contact with the mother
or a familiar care giver for the first 6 to 8 months
of their life till they start crawling and moving
away on their own. It sounds quite painful to always
have to carry the baby, however the baby should not
be the centre of attention, the baby just wants to
observe normal adult life so he or she can learn
from this young age how to be a fruitful part of
society. The baby needs and wants a mother or carer
who is living a busy happy life doing her bit for
Bringing up children today is such hard work mainly
because we make babies the centre of attention right
from the beginning. Later on when they continue to
want and demand the attention that we made them
addicted to, we get annoyed! We complain about the
terrible 2s, about how the toddler refuses to
listen, how children are so easily bored!!!
would be nice to be able bring healthy happy
individuals into this world, people who
do not need therapy, yoga, meditation to heal them
of the traumas they went through in their childhood!
The best part is that in the process we
ourselves become better human beings.